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Pleasure practice

Pleasure practice

This practice is for vulva owners

Can you resonate with any of this?

  • you have a really good marriage but you are not 100% into sex any more
  • you have no urge, no spark and you feel too tired for sex  
  • you eventually have sex, but mainly out of obligation, and it doesn’t feel fulfilling 
  • you don’t know how to ask for what you want in bed because you don’t actually know what you want
  • you feel totally shut down but you both still love each other and cannot figure out what to do next


you are curious to find a way to be turned on and tuned in to your sexuality and have intimacy that feels pleasurable so you can reconnect with your partner

One of the simplest ways to start tuning back into your sexual self is to practice a simple pussy breathing practice regularly.

I use the word pussy a lot.  It refers to a woman’s genitals, which includes the vulva, the clitoris and the vagina.

If you are up for trying something new -

Find yourself a comfortable place to lie down, where you won’t be interrupted

You might like to play some soft music that you enjoy listening to

When you feel ready begin to gently ever so softly squeeze and release your pelvic floor.

Focusing and concentrating on the vaginal opening but also allowing for the perineum all the way up to the urethra to softly squeeze and release for about 1 minute.

You are now going to add the breath.  So you are going to inhale and exhale through the mouth, or if this feels uncomfortable of course breath through your nose.

As you ever so gently squeeze the pelvic floor you are going to inhale through the mouth or whatever feels most comfortable

As you release the pelvic floor you are going to exhale through the mouth or nose if that feels more comfortable

Starting at your own natural pace for about 2 minutes.

Now you are going to add counting, so 4 as you inhale and 8 as you exhale.

So softly gently squeeze the pelvic floor and inhale for count of 1..  2.. 3.. 4..

And exhale and release relaxing the entire pelvic area for a count of  1..2.. 3.. 4.. 5.. 6.. 7.. 8

Softly gently squeeze and inhale   1.. 2.. 3..  4..

Release and exhale 1.. 2.. 3.. 4.. 5.. 6.. 7.. 8

Continue this.    Keep going for about 1 - 2 minutes.

And now releasing the counting and releasing the gentle squeezing and relaxing of the pelvic muscles.

Now you are just going to breathe in and out of the mouth as though you are breathing from the vagina like there is a mouth inside of the vagina.   Just imagine that every single inhale is filling up the entire pelvic area and every single exhale is releasing exhaling air from the pelvic area.

Inhale filling the entire vagina and all of the sexual organs with air.

Exhale releasing.

Continue this at your own pace with the breath that feels most comfortable for you, in and out of the mouth for about 2 minutes.

Ok now release this practice and bring your awareness back to your body and how you are feeling and then if it feels comfortable place one hand on your heart or centre of your chest and the other on your belly and just be present with yourself for a few seconds or however long feels good to you

Then when you are ready you can be seated or whatever feels most comfortable to you.

This practice done regularly can bring more sensation into your vagina and remind you to breathe more deeply during sex, it also can help release old tensions from your vagina.


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